Everyone has experienced anger. The intensity of your anger ranges from deep anger to extreme anger. Sometimes it is normal to get angry from time to time in response to certain situations.
But sometimes people experience an uncontrollable anger. In this case, anger is not a normal emotion but a major problem. Most importantly, you are the first victim of your own anger.
There is a great lesson to be learned from the Buddha about anger.
One day Buddha was walking through a village.
A very angry and rude young man came up and began insulting him. “You have no right teaching others,” he shouted. “You are as stupid as everyone else. You are nothing but a fake.”
The Buddha was not disturbed by these insults. Instead, he asked the young man, “If you buy a gift for someone, and that person does not take it, who owns the gift?”
He was surprised to hear such a strange question, and replied, “I own the gift because I bought it.”
The Buddha smiled and said, ”That is correct. And it is exactly the same with your anger. If you become angry with me and I do not get insulted, then the anger falls back on you. You are then the only one who becomes unhappy, not me. All you have done is hurt yourself.”
If you want to stop hurting yourself, you must get rid of your anger and become loving instead. When you hate others, you yourself become unhappy. But when you love others, everyone is happy.”